By Kim Venter

How can we embrace the experience of having a person in our life who does not “like” us – either after a period of time where there was a friendship – or from the first time that we met the person? It feels hard as a persona when we let our egoic emotions try to manage this dynamic. Our egoic mind goes into defense mode and wants to project our own negative feelings onto the other person making them the reason for our upset – making them the victimizer thus making us the victim. And when we are within this type of experience, it is very hard to step back and remember the truth.

The truth is that when we are experiencing this type of dynamic for a reason. The truth is that the world is a mirror for our own benefit – it shows us how we are doing with our soul growth in a variety of areas. The truth is that when we get triggered by another or a circumstance, it is an invitation to look within and accept the responsibility that we played a part in what we are experiencing. We are the creators of our own experience.

Our perceptions and our thoughts matter. Thus it is important to learn to manage our own thoughts. When we are thinking negatively about another being or a situation, well, soon that manifests and we get to experience the effects of our own creations. Though we would like to project this outside of us – not accepting our part in the dynamic – the truth is we created it, even if it was unconscious.

So, how do we change the dynamic? First we must change our thoughts about it. We must listen to the Holy Spirit who only teaches LOVE. We must accept our part in the creation. We must forgive ourselves for our own judgments. We must release the other person or outside influence from being at fault – from being the victimizer – from being the guilty one. We must choose to change our own minds – back to a place of LOVE and out of a place of judgement.

And, as we accept responsibility for our own part in what transpired, we begin to heal. We begin to forgive ourselves and the other. We begin to pray for guidance for resolution. We begin to return to calm. We begin to return to peace.

And, then our experience begins to change. And, in joy, we can look forward to the restoration of the Kingdom in motion. And we can rest in thankfulness.

About Kim Venter