by Sue Seecof

On their show, “Messages From our Loved Ones“, Dr. Ruth Anderson and Sue Broome offer readings to people who would like to connect with loved ones who have transitioned.

In a recent episode, they explored how to offer continued comfort and guidance to those who are still grappling with loss long after the initial shock has subsided. Here are some insights from their dialogue.

Grief is a deeply personal experience, and navigating its waves can feel overwhelming. This is especially true when the initial outpouring of support from friends and family starts to dwindle.

The Power of Consistent Care
We are reminded that grief is a marathon, not a sprint. While loved ones may be showered with support immediately following a loss, that support often tapers off over time. This may leave those grieving feeling even more isolated and alone.

Reach out to someone who has experienced a loss, even if several months have passed. A simple “thinking of you” or an invitation to connect can make a world of difference. The key is to be respectful of the person’s space and emotions. They may not always be open to conversation, but your effort shows you care.

Remembering the “Firsts”
Grief often intensifies during significant milestones and holidays – the first birthday without a loved one, the first anniversary of their passing. These “firsts” serve as stark reminders of the absence. Being mindful of these dates and offering support beforehand can be incredibly helpful.

Open Communication is Key
The most important takeaway is to keep the lines of communication open. Let the grieving person know you’re there to listen, without judgment. Sometimes, simply acknowledging their pain can be a source of immense comfort.

Remember, there’s no right or wrong way to grieve. By offering consistent support and acknowledging the long journey of loss, we might help those we care about navigate the challenging waters of grief.

Keeping Memories Alive and Honoring the Lost
Here is another insightful point. Talking about the deceased and sharing memories can be a powerful tool for healing. Laughter, in particular, can help shift the energy and create a sense of lightness amidst the grief. Reminiscing, pulling out photos, or simply mentioning the person’s name can be incredibly comforting for those grieving.

The first holidays after a loss can be especially difficult. Honor the loved one’s spirit by setting a place for them at the table or lighting a candle in their memory. These small gestures can be a beautiful way to keep their love alive.

The depth of grief is often a reflection of the depth of love. While the pain can be intense, it’s also a testament to the strength of the bond you shared. Sitting in that gratitude for the love you had can be a source of solace during difficult times.

Continuing the Traditions
The importance of finding ways to continue traditions associated with birthdays and other special occasions may be beneficial. This might involve celebrating with a friend or doing something special in the loved one’s memory. Finding ways to honor their life while creating new memories can be a healthy part of the healing process.

“Messages From our Loved Ones” with Dr. Ruth Anderson and Sue Broome airs monthly on Enlightened World Network.

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